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Wednesday, January 25, 2006
Have you ever experienced feeling very disappointed as a child because your mom or dad failed to fulfill a promise? How about as an adult? Well, I did today. I felt not only disappointed but deeply hurt when I learned that the long overdue adjustment in the salaries of the supervsiors which my boss promised to sign during our meeting before the year ended was put on hold. The HR Department informed me that he needed more comparative studies. I not only felt hurt but embarassed too because when he verbally approved it, I relayed the good news to the supervisors in our last meeting for the year. If as an adult I felt this way, how much more a child who finds a promise as something sacred.

The Little Prince in Antoine de St. Exupery's story said, "When you promise to call, make sure you don't forget. When you promise to come at four o'clock, make sure you come on time. Because I remember your promise and I look forward to it, and when you don't call or come on time, I am disappointed." As parents we must always remember that a child has a short memory. But when it comes to promises, he often doesn't forget.

Fr. Simplicio Apalisok Jr. in one of his sermons said that a promise is a link between the now and the future and between the giver and the expectant receiver. Keeping promises nurture relationships; breaking them, erodes relationships. When we fulfill our promises, we cement our ties; when we fail to keep it, expect to lose it in time.

Adults are like children too when it comes to expecting promises. Promises, especially the little ones, mean a lot. Candies, toys, flowers, a gift, watching a movie, eating dinner...these seemingly insignificant things matter. Come to think of it, would people actually expect us to keep our extraordinary promises when we cannot do the easier ones?

Credibility is an aggregate result of being true to our promises. I guess people will readily give their understanding if we fail to deliver our difficult promises. But they would certainly be less accommodating with our incapability on delivery to their mind, our common and plain pledges.

The sad consequence of the saying "promises are made to be broken" is that relationships are likely to be broken when we often break our promises. By keeping them, relationships would be established and fostered. We become credible and honorable people only because we were considerate to meet the expectations of others.
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  • At 1/24/2006 10:50 PM, Blogger FRIDAY'S CHILD

    Yes. Have been a victim of unfulfilled promises since childhood till adult. But what can I do? I didn't make the promise. The only damage it has done me was hurt me but worst damage it had done was to the person who made the promise. Maybe it was never meant for me so to be upset over what I don’t have I think is to waste what you do have.
    Go ask you boss what happened to the deal he made with you? Maybe he just forgot or deliberately forgot it.

  • At 1/24/2006 10:56 PM, Blogger Trinity13

    I usually don't promise my son anything since I don't want to ever break my promises. It wouldn't be fair to him.

  • At 1/25/2006 8:09 PM, Blogger Connie and Rob

    In my mind promises are meant to be kept. I am a firm believer that if I say I am going somewhere or I am going to do something...I am there!

    Broken promised should be penalized just like broken doctor appointments.

    Take care.

  • At 1/29/2006 8:55 PM, Blogger Carmi

    That's a huge violation of trust. It unfortunately says much about the organization that employs such people.

    Is looking for another job an option?