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Thursday, March 30, 2006


Thankful Thursday: What VIAMARIE is thankful for this week

Image hosting by Photobucket Peaceful living

Image hosting by Photobucket Pure Food

Image hosting by Photobucket Proper exercise

Image hosting by Photobucket Plenty of water

Image hosting by Photobucket Prayer & fasting

Image hosting by Photobucket Periods of fresh air
and sunshine

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Wednesday, March 29, 2006

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Monday, March 27, 2006

It's Graduation Season again in the Philippines. For thousands of graduates, it is the day that marks the start of their future. What they don't know is that many of the things they thought they've learned in college will seem irrelevant the minute they enter the wide world of the workplace.

This is how I felt thirty five years ago when I graduated from my Bachelors in Nursing. All I wanted was just to do bedside nursing to the best of my ability. As days went on, I started to realize that what I have just been through as a student is a mere foretaste of what lies ahead. There were many days wherein everything seems to be askew and I seem pitifully helpless to do anything about it. There were a lot of instances when I had to fully fathom the complexities of human behavior within and outside the workplace. Also there was this very vast wealth of knowledge that had to be explored in the medical field which I didn't learn in school.

All these posed as a challenge to me so barely nine months on the job, I got married and was promoted as Headnurse of the OB/Gyne Division. A few months later I was offered the position of Nurse Supervisor. Since I was about to deliver my first child, it was at this point when I had to assess the situation and study my options. I was not too sure if I was capable of the very big responsibility of running a workforce of almost 300 nursing professionals considering my age. But with God guiding me all the way, I accepted the offer and I am proud to say that I did a very good job. With lots of prayers, I became brave, I held fast to my ideals and I considered the lumps and bumps along the way as part of my continuing education. These experiences in this 250 bed hospital led me to higher positions years later in another hospital but this time in administration.

So to the graduates of 2006, let me share with you what Alex Vergara, a journalist said in one of her articles, "What you learned in school for four years are not enough when it comes to acquiring the skills and knowledge you'll need - professionally and, more so interpersonally - to survive and make sense of this life. You can not depend on your mentors and the institutions that endeavored to mold you into what you've become today. You really have to determine your strengths and to draw from them as you begin to chart your own course. "

"Think of the years you spent in school
as your ticket
to change the world."
Tom Brokaw

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Saturday, March 25, 2006

Have you every wondered why geese fly in a "V" formation? I read that as each bird flaps its wings, it creates uplift for the bird immediately following. By flying in "V" formation, the whole flock adds at least 71% greater flying range than if each bird flew on its own.

You will notice when a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of trying to go it alone - and quickly gets back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the bird in front. When the head goose gets tired, it rotates back in the wing and another goose flies point. Geese honk from behind to encourage those up front to keep up with their speed.

When a goose gets sick or is wounded by gunshot, and falls out of formation, two other geese fall out with that goose and follow it down to lend help and protection. They stay with the fallen goose until it is able to fly or until it dies; and only then do they launch out on their own, or with another formation to catch up with their group.

Isn't this amazing? If we have the sense of a goose, people who share a common direction and sense of community can get where they are going more quickly and easily, because they are traveling on the thrust of one another. At the same time, if we have as much sense as a goose, we will stay in formation with those people who are headed the same way we are. And lastly, if we have the sense of a goose, we will stand by each other like that.
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Wednesday, March 22, 2006

3rd Wordless Wednesday

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Sunday, March 19, 2006

Today I received a sweet smile from my grandson, NICKY. I cherish that look that he saves for special times.

I only have one child, a sweet, talented and beautiful daughter. And then seven years ago God saw fit to bless us with a male. He is a perfect little grandson who captured us all immediately. We soon learned that NICKY doesn't enjoy the cooing, loving and cuddling that a girl shares. Instead, he has a rare special smile that tugs at my heart. Most of the time he is a rough and tumble boy, but when especially pleased or happy, NICKY sends you this most gorgeous smile. In his seven years I have found myself watching his face often for that special smile.

Today, as we all handed him our birthday gifts, his face lit with that smile that melts my heart. In the same way, I love it when God smiles down on me. Just as I pleased NICKY with a small gift, God is pleased when we seek Him with our whole heart. Communicate with Him in prayer, study and obey his Word and God will bless us with His divine favor and peace in our lives.

A smile from my only grandson and a smile from my heavenly Father make a perfect day for me!

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Lots & lots of Image hosting by Photobucket kisses for you!!!

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Saturday, March 18, 2006

There was once a bunch of tiny frogs that arranged a run competition. The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower. A crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the contestants.

The race began...honestly no one in the crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower. You can hear statements such as: "Oh,WAY too difficult...they will NEVER make it to the top"... or "Not a chance that they will succeed... the tower is too high!"

The tiny frogs began collapsing. One by one except for those who in a fresh tempo were climbing higher and higher. The crowd continued to yell, "It is too difficult!!! No one will make it!"

More tiny frogs got tired and gave up... but ONE continued higher and higher. This one wouldn't give up! At the end everyone else had given up climbing the tower except for the one tiny frog. After a big effort, the tiny frog was the only who reached the top. Then all the other tiny frogs naturally wanted to know how this one frog managed to do it?

A contestant asked the tiny frog how the one who succeeded found the strength to reach the goal? It turned out... that the winner was DEAF!!!

Are we just like the other tiny frogs or the one that made it to the top? Have you ever experienced having your most wonderful dreams and wishes taken away from you because you paid attention to what others said? Well let us not wait for it to happen. Let us always think of the power words have because everything you hear or read will affect your actions! We should never listen to other people's tendency to be negative or pessimistic. Let us therefore ... ALWAYS BE POSITIVE!Image hosting by Photobucket
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Thursday, March 16, 2006

Thankful Thursday: What VIAMARIE is thankful for this week

Image hosting by PhotobucketFor being a part of the PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE Seminar which started last Monday. Chrixean invited me and I didn't regret it at all.

Image hosting by Photobucket For the blessings that Our Almighty God bestowed upon my hubby and me for these past years thus giving us the opportunity to celebrate our 33rd wedding anniversary.

Image hosting by Photobucket For all the wonderful anniversary greetings that my blogfriends and other friends and relatives who sent my hubby and me.

Image hosting by Photobucket For the enlightenment and guidance God provided while I was going through a difficult process of resolving a major conflict between 2 groups of doctors. The settlement of major issues will enhance the existing professional relationship of the different clinical departments of our hospital.

Links to other Thankful Thursdays:

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Wednesday, March 15, 2006


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Monday, March 13, 2006

How special it is when a husband or wife says, "I married my best friend." Even more special is the spouse who says after thirty three years of marriage, "I am married to my best friend!"

When I decided to get married to my boyfriend of 6 years, my friends were saying that our marriage was not going to work because I was only in my early twenties and usually relationships at this stage are rooted in passion. Little did they know that our relationship was not only a "love affair", but a deep and growing friendship - a meeting not only of bodies, but of minds, hearts and souls.

When we were introduced by a townmate, I at first didn't take notice. He would tag along his friend who happened to be my boardmate's boyfriend whenever he paid her a visit. When they went on dates, I had to chaperon my friend so I became his constant partner. In the beginning, I found it difficult to relate with him because he was older by 5 years. He was already working while I was just about to start college. Since I was hundred of miles away from home, he gradually became my good friend. He not only loved, cared, worried, stood by me, helped me when I was hospitalized for typhoid fever, forgave me for a lot of things, provided me with warmth, humour, kindness, thoughtfulness & everything I needed. But most of all he was always there when I needed him. These were the qualities that lead me to love him more dearly as the years went by.

In celebration of our 33rd wedding anniversary this coming March 14, I'd like to dedicate this poem written by an unknown author to my dearly beloved husband.

I love you not only for what you are,
but for what I am when I am with you;
I love you not only for what you have made of yourself,
but for what you are making of me;
I love you not for closing your ears to the discords in me,
but for adding to the music in me by worshipful listening;
Perhaps that is what being a friend means, after all.

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Sunday, March 12, 2006

For many women, friendships are among the most important things in their lives. Some assume that the longer the duration of the friendship, the better the friend. But that's not necessarily true.

More than a year ago, an officemate informed me that my friend had been borrowing money from people outside of our company using my name. She made them believe that I was in dire need but was embarrassed to do it personally because of my status as the highest officer of our company. It reached a point that these persons had been requesting to personally collect from since I have been failing to pay them for months now. I was so shocked to hear this so I confronted my friend but she denied the report. She used the excuse that this was the doing of people who wanted to destroy our relationship. Since she was my long time friend, I believed her.
Months later a lady came to see me in my office and she told me that I owed her a big sum of money and I have been in default for more than a year. She was embarrassed to do it but she needed the money very badly so she had to personally collect from me. It was only then that I realized that the report was true all along.
It was a signal of the end of a friendship.

According to Lain Ehmann, "No matter what the reason, ending a friendship can be very difficult. But by allowing unhealthy or unfulfilling friendships to continue could be sacrificing your own well-being." Some advised me to end it gracefully. They suggested that I let things cool... gradually distancing myself by not phoning her liked I used to or by not joining her for lunch.

My friend's behavior had been so hurtful that I needed to end things completely and quickly. I did not heed the advise of my friends. I decided to take the direct route. I have concluded that the connection is unsalvageable and I'm better off without that person in my life. By doing so will make room in my life for more positive nurturing people.

What would you have done if confronted with a disrespectful, ungrateful & abusive friend?

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Friday, March 10, 2006

While we all want to feel needed, there comes a time when you have to stop doing for others and let others learn to care for themselves. This doesn't mean you are abdicating your role as a caretaker. It means you are giving your family a great gift - the ability to responsibly care for themselves.

Think about it. For the house alone, you are probably responsible for doing, arranging for, or coordinating over 30 activities: arranging for babysitters, bathing children, buying clothes for kids & spouse, cleaning rooms, cooking, disciplining, dishwashing, driving kids to school, dusting, feeding family, feeding pets, gardening, going to dry cleaners, grocery shopping, helping the kids with schoolwork, keeping medical & financial records, keeping tabs on items running low, laundering, managing finances, paying bills, picking up after the family, planning menus, organizing children's play, ordering catalog items, scrubbing floors, scrubbing windows, sorting and opening mail, vacuuming, washing cars, watering plants, etc.

Reading this list has probably left you out of breath. Paula Peisiner Coxe, in her book Finding Time, shares some ways you can breathe easy and help your family to help themselves:

  • Store individual-size snack foods where your kids can get them, so you do not always have to prepare snacks from scratch.
  • Keep a chalkboard or hanging pad of paper in a regular place for eveyrone to write down items that are running low, that they need to buy, or that need to be fixed. Check the list before you run errands or go grocery shopping.
  • Designate a spot where each family member can place dirty laundry. Have them put their own clothing in the hamper.
  • Store kitchen items in a designated place so time is not wasted searching for misplaced items.
  • Have a weekly or monthly calendar set up in a clear view (perhaps by the refrigerator) where each family member can look to see what chore he or she has to do...set the table, empty trash, wash dishes, do laundry. Divide tasks fairly, allowing each member to do what he or she prefers, when possible.
  • Trade off cooking nights with your husband and older children.
  • Set aside for a group meeting with family members to discuss how to solve common problems.
  • Make a regular time each week to compare calendars with your spouse and kids and coordinate activities.
Allowing your family to take care of themselves gives you time to take care of yourself. Don't feel guilty about this. You deserve some nurturing. After all, if you don't take care of yourself, no one else will. You're worth it.

Learn to get in touch with silence within yourself
and know that everything in this life has a purpose.
There are no mistakes, no coincidences.
All events are blessings given to us to learn from.
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
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Thursday, March 09, 2006

Thankful Thursday: What VIAMARIE is thankful for this week

1. My family is blessed with many good things aside from good health. My daughter and her hubby's company have a lot of clients to serve and her son will be graduating with a silver medal from Preparatory School by the end of this month.
2. My hubby's patience and understanding especially now that I am going through PMS and a very stressful time at work.
3. I had the chance to visit a dear friend who underwent a major surgery due to cancer. For more than a month, she didn't want any of her friends to see how she looks. Finally she called to say she was ready to receive visitors. We spent the whole time singing with her magic sing videoke and sharing stories. I am happy that she is coping with her radiotherapy sessions very well.

4. I was able to buy the very expensive dinnerwares I have been eyeing on for the past months. Normally this item is not part of the sale but last weekend it was.
5. The department head who was transferred to another company has been replaced. Her replacement is a former junior officer who is back from an overseas employment. She is a welcome sight to everyone in the department and of course to me since I have someone to unload this big sensitive department to. Looking forward to better programs and a healthy working relationship.
6. A foundation came over to discuss how they can help our indigent program. They will be donating a lot of medical equipment. This move will help more than 63,000 members.

Links to other Thankful Thursdays
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Click here for Chrixean's blog

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Wednesday, March 08, 2006


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Sunday, March 05, 2006

While I was in my friend's house yesterday, I was entertained by her children who were enjoying themselves in the garden. I could hear them laughing their hearts away, with eyes brimming with delight. This innocent display of happines made me wish I were young again. Wouldn't you too?

We've all been there. There were days when all we would think about is the next game we'd play, what food to eat or what kind of toy to ask for. And who would ever forget that feeling of excitement as we tried to discover new things-how do caterpillars turn out to become butterflies, how do fishes survive in an aquarium or what causes lightning? How fun it was to learn new things!

But as we reached adolescence, we left that sense of excitement and simplicity. Little do we realize how important being a child at heart is. It doesn't mean being dependent always or throwing tantrums but seeing every new thing that comes our way with excitement.

Adulthood tossed us into the sea of wants and wishes. Back in our childhood days, playing in the sandbox or chasing each other made us happy and contented then. Now, how quickly do we complain on things we don't have?

My friends and I decided to join them and we definitely had fun. It made us remember how simple and happy life was when we were their age and at the same time it also taught us how to be a child at heart again.

"I have stilled and quieted my soul, like a weaned child with its mother;
like a weaned child is my soul within me."
Psalm 131:2

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Saturday, March 04, 2006

Thank God It's Friday!!! I had a very busy week and it has really worn down my body and my spirit. So this afternoon after my last meeting with the team, we all stayed behind in the board room and started to exchange stories...many of them were funny.

This story made all of us laugh out loud and I hope it will make you laugh too.

A married couple in their early 60s was out celebrating their 35th wedding anniversary in a quiet, romantic little restaurant when suddenly, a tiny yet beautiful fairy appeared on their table and said, "For being such an exemplary married couple and for being faithful to each other for all this time, I will grant you each a wish."

"Oh, I want to travel around the world with my darling husband" said the wife. The fairy waved her magic wand and - poof! - two tickets for the Queen Mary II luxury liner appeared in her hands. Then it was the husband's turn. He thought for a moment and said: "Well, this is all very romantic, but an opportunity like this will never come again. I'm sorry my love, but my wish is to have a wife 30 years younger than me. " The wife, and the fairy, were deeply disappointed, but a wish is a wish... So the fairy waved her magic wand and - poof! - the husband became 92 years old.

The moral of the story: Men should remember fairies are female.

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Friday, March 03, 2006

Thankful Thursday: What VIAMARIE is thankful for this week

1. Having blogmates who left very inspiring messages when I shared my story of the death of Amy. It surely made me feel that I should not feel responsible for her death.
2. For the transfer of an officer of one of the departments under my direct supervision who has been causing me a lot of problems with her work. The President of our company has finally transferred her to a sister company. Though it took him 5 years to realize that we couldn't work together, I am still happy because now I'm rid of her.
3. To God for answering our prayer for help in resolving the attempted coup in my country.
4. When a former dear friend who caused me great pain 10 years ago finally came over to see me at my office to apologize for what she had done. A common friend of ours who arrived from overseas knew about what happened and convinced her to humble herself and talk to me. It felt so good after. Thanks very much Luz for making it possible.

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Wednesday, March 01, 2006

I was conducting my regular rounds of the hospital when I chanced upon a 92 year old, petite, well-poised and proud lady who while patiently waiting for many hours for her room was talking to a nurse. From their conversation, I learned that she was blind and her husband who was a regular patient of ours recently passed away.

She was in for dialysis treatment which required her long stay in the hospital so the nurse was providing her a visual description of how her room looks. She then stated with enthusiasm..."I love it".

The nurse then said, "but madam, you haven't seen the room...just wait." She then replied "that doesn't have anything to do with it." "Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is's how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it. It's a decision I make every morning when I wake up."

She further said... "I have a choice. I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the part of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open, I'll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I've stored away...just for this time in my life."

As I got back to my office, I started reflecting and I realized that what she said is truly right. Life is like a bank withdraw from what you've put in. So we have to deposit a lot of happiness in our bank account of memories.

Here are 5 simple rules to be happy that I try very hard to apply as I go through life everyday:
1. free your heart from hatred
2. free your mind from worries
3. live simply
4. Give more
5. Expect less

To my loving family & dear friends, thank you for your part in filling my Memory Bank. Up to this day, I am still making deposits.
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