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Friday, February 24, 2006
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Do you make it a practice to count your blessings, or do you grumble a lot?

Do you know your children will copy you? Recently while I was having lunch with some officemates, I noticed how much each one was complaining. They didn't like the office memo on a new company policy, the new head of one division, the seminar workshops scheduled during weekends, lack of sleep, etc. They complained of everything!

I started to chide them about this before I realized; they sounded just like me!

Did I teach them being their boss to do this?

Probably.

I love to complain loudly when I am under stress. Griping to others seems to relieve some of the strain. But until the other day, I didn't realize how terrible it sounded.

I now know that too much complaining is boring to the listener, sounds ungrateful and causes other people anxiety they don't deserve. Too much complaining does something else, too. It makes me forget who God is. It makes me forget what He promises to do for me.

If God is blessing me, why should I complain?

I will still probably share worries with my friends, but I plan to verbalize my trust in God, as well as talk about the problems.

Who knows? Maybe optimism is more energizing than complaining? Maybe that extra energy is all I need to improve my situation.
 
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22 Comments:


  • At 2/23/2006 8:57 PM, Blogger Daydreamer of Oz

    Hey Viamarie:
    A while ago, I also noticed this phenomenon. Since then I've tried to make a concerted effort not to complain as much.

    It is hard to do sometimes though....especially if you're talking with a friend. And there's a big difference between relating a problem & complaining about it.

    I'll take you as inspiration to remember this daily ;)

    Thanks for your visits to my blog & adding me to your list. You've been added to mine as well!

     
  • At 2/23/2006 9:32 PM, Blogger Lazy Daisy

    Wow, I just finished a Bible study on that very subject. You are right! Complaining springs from an ungrateful heart and ultimately I'm complaining against God's provision.The study recommended carrying around a button in your change purse or where you can see it to remind you to "button your lip!" and to direct our comments and concern to God. I love being on the same wave length with you. Thanks for stopping by!

     
  • At 2/23/2006 10:25 PM, Blogger mommyof4

    I completely agree. Complaing doestake up to much energy. Just yesterday I was in a mood complaining about every little thing, today I decided to chill a bit I feel better already!

     
  • At 2/23/2006 11:48 PM, Blogger FRIDAY'S CHILD

    Efforts in trying not to complain is easy to do at times but when people around you make you waste these efforts or people around you inspite of all cannot understand what you're going through, I think this is the only way I can release myself otherwise, I'll break.`

     
  • At 2/23/2006 11:50 PM, Blogger Paige

    Good Idea; Yes I too will try to let it go. {Paige jumps on the band wagon} Hey I want to play the harpsicord!

     
  • At 2/24/2006 5:18 AM, Blogger Will Powers

    Tis very true what you say...taking things, life, people for granted is our own undoing.

     
  • At 2/24/2006 7:45 AM, Blogger The Mistress of the Dark

    Diana Krall did a lovely version of the song Count Your Blessings Instead of Sheep. I've been trying to remember to do this, it's not always easy though.

    Have a lovely day :)

     
  • At 2/24/2006 9:52 AM, Blogger Connie and Rob

    I really learned a long time ago that it just doesn't do that much good to complain...mostly because I found that people were bored listening. So...I don't hardly ever say anything unless it is positive and it was a miracle...I felt better.

    Connie

     
  • At 2/24/2006 12:47 PM, Blogger Godknows

    Hi,
    My staff always complain whenever they sit have a cup of tea together. sometimes, I feel like slap in their faces. They dont appreciated they the company has given them a job. Sorry to leave you a complain comment :)

     
  • At 2/24/2006 1:25 PM, Blogger utenzi

    Michele sent me, Marie.

    I'm definitely more of a complainer than a blessing counter. Fortunately I don't have kids of underlings to rub off on. But of course complaining and not doing anything about the problem you're complaining about isn't very healthy behavior. :-(

    On the other hand, I like to complain.

     
  • At 2/24/2006 5:08 PM, Blogger Blue

    I have learned....

    You cannot be stressed out and sing 'I'm a little teapot' at the same time.

    Also as a manager I have a container of lolly snakes on my desk - anyone wants to whinge they get offered a 'worm' (as in nobody loves me, everybody hates me, I think I'll go and eat worms....) Unless of course its legitimate & they can offer evidence of having thought of a solution.

    Wouldn't you love to work for me? lol

     
  • At 2/24/2006 5:11 PM, Blogger Ben

    My Mum always said: "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."

    That's worked pretty well.

    TGIF!

    Michele sent me.

     
  • At 2/24/2006 5:36 PM, Blogger mar

    You made a very good point. I try not to complain much, my son is almost 18 and I don't want him to remember me at home like the one complaining about trivial things. It makes the day a better one, looking at the bright side of life. Have a good day!

     
  • At 2/24/2006 8:23 PM, Blogger Denny Shane

    Some people look at complaining as personal theraphy. Unfortunately they complain to the wrong people... but then again if the people simply sit and let her complain, then it's their fault.

     
  • At 2/24/2006 9:54 PM, Blogger Kimmy

    Hello! Michele sent me!

    It's hard for us to focus on the good and not the bad. We worry naturally. We complain naturally... but we have to focus on the positive. We have to count our blessings.

    Of course things are going to bother you or upset you in life... and you have to vent. But not worry... we can't worry and ask God to take care of it at the same time. How can we expect God to take care of it when we still hold on tightly... thinking we can handle it better. Let go of it all. Vent, hand it to God and forget about it. That's all he asks us to do.

    Shew... that was a long "Hello, Michele sent me." :p

     
  • At 2/24/2006 10:59 PM, Blogger Karen

    Hi from Michele's!

     
  • At 2/25/2006 12:18 PM, Blogger Chrixean

    Through the years I've realized that it's ok to complain for the purpose of venting to really close friends, or at best, your husband. People who you know will listen to sympathize and to give you the much needed encouragement for the moment. Other than those, best to keep a happy front and just let them know that you are blessed and content. :-)

     
  • At 2/25/2006 1:33 PM, Blogger Malinda777

    It's good to vent sometimes, you don't sound like a person that lets negativity rule them.

    Just stopped by to say hey from Michele

     
  • At 2/25/2006 8:22 PM, Blogger Star

    I bet you aren't really a complainer. I know when I am under stress, mostly at work, I tend to vent out loud. But in the long run I am a positive person. Michele sent me.

     
  • At 2/25/2006 11:32 PM, Blogger utenzi

    Michele sent me to see you, Marie.

    Grumbling is more fun than counting blessings, at least when it's done with others. Complaining builds a sense of community, oddly enough. But when alone it's far better to dwell on the positive things in your life. Otherwise you just become bitter.

     
  • At 2/26/2006 1:13 AM, Anonymous lisa

    A lot of people bond through complaining. It is an especially good ice breaker, but it gets old when that is what dominates your life - a focus on the negative.

    I try not to do it too much.

     
  • At 2/26/2006 10:18 AM, Anonymous Stephanie Davies

    Michele sent me tonight :) You have a lovely template here. I'm definitely much more of a complainer, and I'm happy with that lol